BBA Housemates want Pokello out

HOUSEMATES in the Big Brother Africa (BBA): The Chase Rubies House seem determined to have Pokello out of the game, as they are constantly nominating her for possible eviction from the show.

It has become so obvious that each time Big Brother announces the nominated housemates, Pokello always shouts her name knowing that Big Brother will call her out.
This week is Pokello’s fifth time up for eviction.
Housemates in the Rubies house have had enough of Pokello’s bossy attitude while some have figured that she is a strong contender considering that she has survived eviction four times. 
Four housemates, Cleo (Zambia), Sulu (Zambia), Feza (Tanzania), and Oneal (Botswana) nominated 
Pokello. 
Oneal said he nominated Pokello because “she felt she was an all-star” while Feza nominated her because 
“she instigated things in the house”. 
Cleo nominated Pokello saying she was a strong character judging by the number of times Africa had saved her. 
Sulu said he nominated Pokello because she was too much of herself.
Initially, Pokello and her love interest Elikem (Ghana) had received the highest number of nominations, but Elikem was saved by head of house and hence is no longer up for eviction this week. 
Pokello is now up against strong contenders Angelo (South Africa) and Diamonds housemates’, Bassey (Sierra Leone), Annabel (Kenya) and Dillish (Namibia). Pokello’s chances of surviving eviction this week are shaky.
She was almost evicted on Sunday.
Pokello survived the eviction by a whisker as there was tie between her, Natasha and Cleo. They received two country votes each. The tie-breaking system was used resulting in Natasha’s eviction.
Zimbabwe and South Africa voted to keep Pokello in the game. 
This Sunday though, chances are high that she will not get the South African vote as a South African housemate is also up for eviction. 
She may just be lucky to get the usual Ghanaian vote because of her alliance with the Ghanaian housemate. 
It remains to be seen if she will get the Nigerian vote this week after losing it last week.
Meanwhile, the two BBA Houses, the Diamond and Rubies, will merge this Friday with a new twist to the game. 
Six fake housemates from an imaginary house, the Emerald House, will join The Chase during the Airtel Arena Showdown. 
They will feature in the merged house for a few days to spice up the game.
The fake housemates will not be competing for the US$300 000 prize.
Their only objective is to confuse the other housemates and convince them that the Emerald house is real. The housemates are Sophie (Uganda); JJ (Zimbabwe); Jazz (Kenya); Busi (South Africa); Eveva (Zambia) and Alusa (Kenya).
One of the housemates, Eveva, made it clear to viewers during Sunday’s eviction show that her role in the game was to frustrate Pokello by taking away her love interest from Elikem. 
Pokello has never taken it lightly when ladies play around her man. 
Any lady who becomes too close to Elikem has always declared war with Pokello and the results have never been good.

DISSING THE FIRST LADY?: Wole Soyinka Says “When You Marry An Illiterate Woman, You Make Stupid Decisions”

Prof. Wole Soyinka

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1. It’s No More about Subsidy Alone.

    a] The American President has only TWO aircraft, our president has 9[Nine] in his fleet and was voted moneyrecently to buy ONE more! Making it TEN!

    b] The British prime Minister has only TWO official cars, our president has 23 in his pool and only recently voted 300Million Naira to buy TWO more bullet/bomb proof ones!

    c] Senators in the US earn about $6,000 dollars monthly and that’s about what a university professor, or a 
director in a state department, or a doctor with 20years experience, or a teacher with 25years experience earn too, but Here in Nigeria a senator earns 245 million Naira per annum! That’s the salary of 25 vice chancellors, or 50 medical doctors, or 60 directors, or 500 school teachers!

    d] The US, almost the size of Africa with about 500million people have 24 ministers, and 32 government parastatals and commisions, Nigeria has a whooping 42 cabinet ministers, and over 50[Fifty] government parastatals!

    e] America with about 500million people and more mileage to drive consumes 39million litres of petrol daily, Nigeria with 150million people 60% out of which live in remote areas, yet our government tells us we consume about 35million litres of petrol daily! 

2. Is Subsidy Really the Problem of Nigeria?

‘When you marry an illiterate woman as a wife, you will definitely make stupid decisions like jonathan’: wole soyinka spoke!

Our Dear President GoodLuck Jonathan has become a tyrant, a shandel, a shame, he has become the No.1 Enemy of Nigeria. Is this because we, Nigeria are yet to adopt to CHANGE? Change that only Jonathan can see? The End will justify everything. Pray for Nigeria! Pray for our Beloved Country!

We wonder if all this came from prof.

Miracle: New born baby girl ‘comes back to life’ in chapel just before she’s taken to Mortuary

Yasmin’s body was in a box in the chapel until 2pm, when her grandmother  arrived with the owner of a funeral parlour who is also a family friend carrying the baby’s coffin. But as soon as they went to pick her up, the newborn kicked a leg, shocking new reports have revealed.
Yasmin Gomes was pronounced dead after she stopped breathing immediately after birth, hospital record showed. On Tuesday morning at the Lincoln Graca hospital, doctors unsuccessfully tried to revive the baby several times but she was  finally declared dead at 11am, and a death certificate issued.
Three hours later she was placed in a box and left in the chapel at the hospital in Londrina, south  Brazil, by a nurse who “couldn’t face sending her to the morgue”, according to  reports.
When the new born’s grieving grandmother arrived with a mortician to pick  up her body for burial they were
stunned when Yasmin opened her eyes.
“At first I couldn’t believe it, we couldn’t accept that it could happen. Then we saw that she was breathing. We hugged each other and started to  shout, ‘she’s alive, she’s alive’. It was a miracle,”baby’s grandmother Elza Silva told Brazil’s Globo G1 website.
The Mirror reports:

Yasmin’s mother Jenifer da Silva Gomes, 22, told Brazils Tanosite website she  was the first to be told that he daughter had died.
She recalled: “My world crashed down right then. It was the most desperate  moment when all my dreams were snatched away.”
Nurse Ana Claudia Oliveira, who accompanied the birth, said she asked for the  baby’s body to be laid in the hospital chapel, instead of the normal procedure  of being sent to the refrigerated morgue.
She said: “She’s a little angel, a child. I just couldn’t face the thought of  her being sent down to the morgue.”
She added that she washed and dressed the dead baby and had no doubt that she  was dead.
She said: “I can assure you, the child was dead. Her pupils didn’t respond to  light. All her signs pointed to the complete absence of life.
“I saw it with my own eyes. She was blue all over, completely dead,” she  said.
Yasmin’s father Cleverson Carlos Gomes, 26, said he received the news where  he was waiting in the hospital’s corridor and went straight to the chapel.
He said: “I saw my daughter’s pale, lifeless body. I couldn’t stay there. I  ran out of the chapel in tears.”

The hospital in Londrina

Yasmin’s body remained in a box in the chapel until 2pm, when her grandmother  arrived with the owner of a funeral parlour, family friend Rosilis Ferro,  carrying the baby’s coffin.
But as soon as they went to pick her up, the newborn kicked a leg, according  to Ms Ferro.
She said: “It was an incredibly emotional moment. I began to shake and I  couldn’t speak, I was overwhelmed with happiness.
“I called a nurse who at first didn’t believe it, she told us they were just  spasms. But then the baby opened her eyes.”
Mum Jennifer said she was still being comforted by family members when a  nurse burst into the room and shouted: “Your daughter’s alive”.
She remembered: “At first I had no reaction, I didn’t know what to think.  Then I started to be sick. But after that I couldn’t contain my happiness.”
Doctor Aurelio Filipak, who battled to save Yasmin and signed her death  certificate, said: “People can make their own conclusions, but only those who  were there know what really happened.
“In 20 years of medicine, I have never witnessed anything like this.”
He said a team of medics tried to resussitate the baby for nearly an  hour.
“All the equipment, like the cardiac monitor and oximeter, all showed that  she was not breathing and had no heart beat,” he added.

Senate Throws Out 6-Year Single Tenure, Autonomy for LGs

The Senate has thrown out the proposal of a six-year single tenure for the president and state governors.

It was not a surprising decision as the debate last week showed which way the lawmakers would swing.

On resumption of plenary this week, the lawmakers engaged in a clause by clause vote of areas for review in the 1999 constitution, an engagement which lasted for almost five hours.

They however adopted clause 9 of the draft bill which empowers the national assembly to make an entirely new constitution for the country.

They also adopted section 3a of the draft which rejects the president’s assent on the amended constitution before taking effect.

However, the lawmakers rejected autonomy for local governments, a move that comes across as surprising because many lawmakers during the constitutional review debate last week appeared to be favourably

disposed to autonomy for local governments as 59 lawmakers voted for local government autonomy, while 38 voted against bearing in mind that 73 votes are needed for any clause to be passed.

The Senators also rejected the inclusion of the Attorney General of the Federation for first line charge and the separation of the office of the attorney general from the minister of justice.

In a vote that was taken twice, the lawmakers voted against the removal of prisons from the exclusive list.

The senators also endorsed life pension for the president and deputy president of the senate as well as the speaker and deputy speaker of the House of Representatives.

The recommendation that a bill automatically becomes law if the president fails to assent to it after 30 days of transmission was also approved.

However clause 4 of the bill caused controversy on the floor of the senate.

The committee recommended alteration of section 29 of the constitution that deals with the manner of renunciation of citizenship.

The constitution states that full age means eighteen years and above and the committee proposed a removal of part b of the clause which states that any woman that is married shall be deemed to be of full age

Nigeria Under President Jonathan Is A Theater Of Confusion

Nigeria is passing through one of the most turbulent times of her existence since it gained independence from the British in 1960. Perhaps the times that could be compared to this period of chaos, confusion, widespread violence, leadership breakdown and political instability will be from 1966 to 1970 to the inglorious June 12, 1993 when Moshood Abiola lost his popular mandate to a dictator and the crisis that followed.

Across the length and breadth of Nigeria it’s like a reality-television series taking place. Prior to now, Nigeria leaders used the populace as their punching bags [but] presently they have turned on one another...

Leaders punching leaders in the full glare of the populace – by the way, that includes children. The boxing ring was set in the hallowed chambers of the Senate early this year over the budget row and the presidential state of the union address. Two opposing senators nearly kissed each other’s faces with their knuckles but for the timely intervention of the Senate president. The impasse between the presidency and the legislative assembly on the constitution is yet to be resolved. The Nigeria Governors Forum has maintained a polarized forum claiming separate legitimacy. Among the sectors, NUPENG of the oil and gas ended a 3-day strike only for ASUU and ASUP in education to succeed them. PHCN is increasing tariffs despite acknowledged poor value delivery.

The state of emergency in three northern states don't appear to have deterred the members of Boko Haram in their quest for mayhem in the region. the latest blood of over 20 children testifies to the prevalent state of insecurity in the region. The kidnapping business is thriving in many southern states. Need I mention Rivers State is raging like an inferno? Adults, youths and children have watched, horrified as an elected leader repeatedly bashed the head of another elected leader not minding the heavy presence of security men who in a normal clime should have cuffed him for attempted murder. Then the height of it, a policeman trained to protect and be “your friend”, kicking and beating an elected official.

All of these happened within the first half of one year under the watch of President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan. Recently the president asked Nigerians to score his performance so far. I am not sure whether he read the score cards sent in by many Nigerians on several media platforms, but it was one poor result after another. Since his request, one would have thought the focus of the administration will be on how to accelerate meaningful development in all sectors of the nation’s economy. However it is one show of disappointment after another. Makes one wonder what the remaining half of the year portends. The failure of leadership has never been so apparently than it is today.

Since coming into office in May 29, 2011 President Jonathan has left nobody in doubt the direction his administration was going – nowhere. It started with his inaugural speech which basically said nothing in terms of direction and vision of the government except make the usual politically correct promises that are never justified with well articulated plans. Expectedly, the report card of over two years in office is largely confusion and more confusion.

Nigeria is currently the 8th most corrupt country in the world, what more do we expect in a culture of impunity, unaccountable leaders and perilous contradictions. The fetid air of confusion however appears to be benefiting the presidency as it has gone ahead to stoke the fire in Rivers State by calling for the probe and prosecution of the governor Chibuike Amechi and hiring protesters to block the International Airport in Rivers thereby holding hostage four northern governors who came to visit. The government is also showing no signs of mending the rift between it and the National Assembly on the issue of the budget and state of the union address. 

ASUP may have suspended their strike with an ultimatum to the government to accede their demands within one month. But we all know the government will again disappoint, so next year another strike. Meanwhile the ‘indefinite’ ASUU strike continues because the administration is reneging on agreements it entered voluntarily. But considering the fact that their children are not students in any of the public universities no one should blame them to not understand the level of rot in the education sector.

It is high time this atmosphere of confusion end. 2015 is around the corner and already many political juggernauts are showing signs of storming times ahead. If the present political confusion persists, “free and fair” elections in 2015 may just be the next casualty. Nonetheless, it will take a people who are tired of a putrid status quo and are ready to create and enforce the change they desire. No government is bigger than the people who made it.

By Frank Onuoha
he is a Historian and Public Affairs Analyst.

DATELINE EGYPT: Egypt's New Cabinet has women, Christians; No Islamists

Egypt's interim leader swore in a Cabinet on Tuesday that included women and Christians but no Islamists as the military-backed administration moved swiftly to formalize the new political order and present a more liberal face that is markedly at odds with the deposed president and his supporters. 
The changes came at a time of deep polarization and violence in Egypt, including new clashes that killed seven people as part of the continuing bloodshed that has marked the days following the armed forces coup that swept President Mohammed Morsi from office and cracked down on the Muslim Brotherhood. 
Egypt's military already wields great influence behind the scenes, and the army chief, Gen. Abdel-Fattah el-Sissi, who ousted Morsi on July 3, was given a promotion in the Cabinet. He became a first deputy prime 
minister in addition to keeping his post as defense minister.For most of the two years since the overthrow of autocrat Hosni Mubarak, the country has been split into two camps _ one led by Morsi, his Muslim Brotherhood and its Islamist allies, and another led by secular Egyptians, liberals, Christians and moderate Muslims. 
The fault lines remain, except that the Islamist camp is no longer in power. It does not include members of any Islamist parties _ a sign of the enduring division that follows the removal of Morsi, Egypt's first freely elected president.The interim president's spokesman had earlier said posts would be offered to the Muslim Brotherhood, but the group promptly refused, saying it would not take part in the military-backed political process and would continue protests until the legitimately elected Morsi is reinstated. 
We refuse to even discuss it,'' a senior official of the Muslim Brotherhood's political arm, the Freedom and Justice party, told The Associated Press.What is built on illegitimacy is illegal,'' he said on condition of anonymity because he was not authorized to speak to the media before the party issued a formal statement on the formation of the Cabinet.

Boko-Haram 2nd-In-command Challenges Leader Shekau On Ceasefire

In what appeared to be an internal crisis in the leadership of the Islamic terror group, Boko Haram sect, Mahammad Marwanu, who claimed to be the second in command of the sect has challenged the leadership of Abubakar Shekau over a ceasefire and dialogue with federal government officials.

Last week Marwanu announced that the sect reached an agreement with federal government delegation on a ceasefire, a statement which was rejected by Shekau in a reported video clip.
However, Marawanu yesterday accused Shekau of being an impediment to peace in the country.

He called on Nigerians to continue to pray, saying nobody among the members of the sect will listen to 
Shekau, whom he referred to as an interim leader. 
Speaking to Voice of America, (VOA) Hausa service, Marwanu said “Between us who are praying for peace and he who prays for violence we are going to see whose prayer will be answered. Everybody is not happy, let him come out and do what said he would do and let us see if it is possible for him to do that.”
He said this time around there would be no deception in the ongoing discussion between the sect and the government.

“In this month of Ramadan we seek for forgiveness from every Muslim and we also forgive all. This is a journey I started and nobody will stop me. 
And anybody who resists we will leave him behind and he will be alone, none of the mujahideen will join him.

The Luxurious Life Of Nigerian Celebrities

Living one’s life to the fullest and living one’s life extravagantly is a different ball game altogether. Extravagance is something that one’s spirit ‘thinks’ is a necessity, but this could be wrong. OLUSOLA OLUJIDE AYODELE x-rays the luxurious lifestyle of Nigerian actors
It is opined that extravagance is the luxury of the rich; penury is the luxury of the poor. This statement is apt in the lives of several Nigerian artistes who tend to show off their ‘wealth’ in a bid to constantly remain on the public eye for as long as possible. It has also been said that all decent people live beyond their incomes nowadays, and those who aren’t respectable live beyond other people. A few gifted individuals manage to do both.
It is a good thing obviously to enjoy the works of your hand, however with moderation. Recently, the media, blogs, websites, etc. have been eroded with stories, articles, news centered on some activities of some artistes, though in different dimensions. We had D’banj ‘suit of money’; Wizkid purchasing a new Porsche; 
Don Jazzy feeling cool with the most expensive wine ever; OJB having kidney issues, etc.
It’s a good thing to enjoy your money especially after working so hard to earn them but there is certainly what is called simplicity. But just as Coco Chanel opined “Simplicity is the keynote of all true elegance.”
International superstar, entertainer and Oliver Twist crooner, Dapo Oyebanjo popularly known as D’banj is never far away from making huge statements and breaking new grounds in terms of how he appears. He is a disciple of the popular saying that “you are addressed the way you are dressed”. He takes particular interest in how he looks and this obviously was an important factor in his decision to dress expensively.
In a recent newspaper interview, he confirmed he wears the same wristwatch as American rapper Jay-Z, valued at $50,000. D’banj has continued to rise in stardom despite his split from erstwhile partner and friend, Don Jazzy. He has continued to command huge sums of money in endorsements, appearances and performances thus still making him the highest earning Nigerian artiste of all time. D’banj is by no mean standard a classy entertainer, always on point, dapper and smoking hot! His sense of fashion in the Nigeria entertainment industry is almost second to none and doesn’t disappoint.\
His much talked about DKM concert held recently at the Eko Hotel & Suites was the perfect avenue to show the world his latest fashion sense. He showed off his much talked about “Suit of Money“. It was designed by the famous Okunoren Twins. It was made of actual $100 bills and cost a whopping $25,000. You can convert that on your own!
It was entirely sewn by hand in London but was then taken to Italy for the specialised Milanese buttonholes to be done at the same factory used by Tom Ford. His new song titled, “Blame it on the Money”, featuring Snoop Lion and fellow Good Music act Big Sean goes further to emphasise his wealth where he states he is unapologetic for being rich.
In the words of a world renowned economist, John Maynard Keynes “There is no subtler, no surer means of overturning the existing basis of society than to debauch the currency. The process engages all the hidden forces of economic law on the side of destruction, and does it in a manner which no single person in a million can diagnose.” D’banj has simply debased the American dollar. He should have used the Naira instead but must have felt that the Naira won’t project his image well.
The thinking is that, it’s not proper to debase a currency the way Eja Nla did with the dollar notes, even with a Nigerian Naira. Agreed, he can spend his money the way he wants, he worked hard for it, but by being simple and modest, the dressing will be well appreciated.
The world most powerful president, Barack Obama, in all his presidential elegance would never ridicule the dollar note the way D’banj did. D’banj should be more objective, do good music, and leave all the idle propaganda for the less successful artistes in the industry. Nice suit, anyway!
Wizkid is a talented young artiste and he is the golden boy of the music industry alongside Davido. He recently crashed his N15million Porsche Panamera and within two weeks, replaced the car with another Porsche Panamera. He said he had no means of transportation except with cabs and of course, it is his money and he can do as he wished. No doubt about that but he should show modesty and simplicity. He is still very young and has a very bright future ahead of him. He should use this golden opportunity he has right now to invest in profitable business to secure his future. He probably won’t sing for life and will have to fall back on something for survival. A miser grows rich by seeming poor; an extravagant man grows poor by seeming rich.
It’s no longer news that the most expensive champagne ‘Goût de Diamants’ in the entire universe was created by a Nigerian, a luxury designer, Alexander Amosu. It’s worth a whopping N248m. Commenting on the design, Alexander Amosu said, “The bottle already has a distinctive look with its natural design; all I had to do is bring it to the next level of ultimate luxury.” The Goût de Diamants (Taste of Diamonds) everyday bottles are hand-finished by a single craftsman with over 40 years’ experience. The Bottles for each of the four vintages come with a hand-applied pure pewter engraved label set with a brilliant cut Swarovski Crystal (The Rosé crystal is appropriately pink and the Brut, blue). It was designed to create a masterpiece for private wealthy clients. Maybe, Don Jazzy has been a ‘coded’ client over the years.
Mr Amosu hand crafted the packaging from 18ct solid white gold weighing approximately 48gsm of solid gold centered by a single flawless deep cut white diamond weighing 19cts. The label is also handmade in 18ct solid gold and weighs approximately 36gsm, handcrafted and engraved with the client’s name. The question on most people’s lips is whether the wine will wash away years of sins of the drinker. Will the drinker ever thirst again?
There are millions of hungry children out there in the wilderness looking for succour. With the grace of God who has made these artistes very successful, should learn to plough back to the society that made them. Sponsoring indigent students in schools; empowering the youths will go a very long way to eradicate the poverty in Nigeria. The amount spent on these luxuries is more than enough to cater for so many helpless children. It could be recalled that the social media was eroded with the calls for OJB kidney transplant. Fans were shocked at the nonchalant attitude of music stars that were expected to rise up in unison and help raise cash. Some did after so much pressure from fans while a host of them didn’t. This is not to say OJB didn’t plan for himself. He had spent so much on treating himself while his musical career suffered.
If it were to buy the latest cars, clothes, travel around the world, party heavily, they wouldn’t hesitate to spend money, but to assist a fellow in need always takes time. There is the need for our stars to have a change of mind and always be willing to help people genuinely. Yes, they are making the money now, are they planning for the dry seasons? Many people believe that the life of a famous musician is all champagne, Lear jets and a steady flow of royalty payments to pay for it all.
This is certainly true for some, but there are also those who have reached the upper echelons of mega stardom, only to lose it all in the blink of an eye. Some managed their money badly. Some lost everything to the managers and promoters who were supposed to be looking after their affairs. And some spent all their money on lavish mansions, expensive cars and various addictions. They can learn from the world’s richest men who dedicate a percentage of their wealth to the needy. They aren’t getting poorer.

Source: Leadership

Reasons Why Younger Men Date Older Women

As a dating coach over the last 10 years, I’ve talked with lots of single men and discovered these seven reasons why young men find an older woman attractive.
1) For Fun
Cyndi Lauper says “Girls just want to have fun”. So, go ahead and enjoy a younger man who is looking for fun too. Sometimes life brings you an opportunity just for the sake of a good time. Nothing wrong with that. It’s what the movie “How Stella Got Her Groove Back” was all about. A fling with a young man brought Stella back to the joys of her life.

2) For Status
Older women are more accomplished. Many have high-powered jobs and are very affluent, with the coin to enjoy the good things in life. For eons, older men have dated younger women and they still do. So, it stands
to reason that today’s younger men are looking for the benefits that come from dating someone older and more established. There’s a certain status that comes with dating a person of power and presence.

And let’s face it, successful women desire what older men have known for years – dating younger helps keep you young and brings back the glow of youth. Sounds good to me! Stop objecting to older men who want “arm candy”. It’s finally your turn. If you want some arm candy, go find some.

3) For Avoiding the Ticking Bio Clock
Women in their 30′s are often worried about their biological clocks ticking and with good reason. However, an older woman is past thinking “family” or already has her family. This takes the pressure off a younger man. With an older woman, he can actually side step the family thing and simply focus on you babe. How nice is that?

4) For Oedipus
The Oedipus complex, a psychological term coined by Sigmund Freud, is actually based on Greek mythology and a tragic play by Socrates. The briefest explanation – when a young seeks the love of his mother – from another woman. Sort of like replaying his family drama.

Maybe he looks up to you. Maybe he appreciates your ability to nurture and the wisdom that only time can foster. It’s flattering when someone looks up to you. One of the best ways to learn life’s lessons is through a mentor and as you play the expert, you can savor the companionship of a delightful younger man.

5) For Lust
Maybe you’re hot and he wants you. Not a bad thing right? After all, nature has played a trick on humans with women reaching their intimate peak later in life and men reaching it earlier. This is a way to balance things out!

Not only that, but if a younger man finds you attractive, whether or not you go for it, his attention can boost your self esteem. Allow yourself to pump up your ego and feel like the attractive, alluring woman that you really are. Revel in it!

6) For Experience
Let’s say you are a younger man who hasn’t been with a lot of women. You’d like the short course from someone who could show you the way. Bingo! Some younger men date older women simply to gain experience. What a service you are doing for the younger women he’ll come in contact with later in life.

The teacher/student type of relationship is a classic. Just keep it out of the classroom and over 21 and you’ll be all set for a eye-opening and inspiring interaction. Plus, this type of relationship gives you a chance to be the chic in charge which can be a real kick. Why not show someone younger how to create romance and connection and benefit from the fun?

7) For Love
The last reason, but not the least, is LOVE. Some younger men can’t help who they fall for. He saw you, was struck by your beauty, charm and confidence, and fell head over heels. It happens. Really it does. Ask Katie Couric and Brooke Perlin, and countless others. It’s all the rage in Hollywood and for good reason.

The May-December romance which was frowned upon years ago, has now become totally acceptable. In addition, I say, let’s here it for those younger men who have the good sense to fall for an older woman like you! They have excellent taste.

Next Steps
Stop fretting about what a younger guy sees in you and enjoy his attention and affection. You deserve every flattering, delicious moment, so sit back and count your blessings.

Sex toys gaining popularity in Nigeria – especially among women

Sex Toys

SEX toys are increasingly finding their ways into the Nigerian market by the day and becoming a habit among women.
The Free Encyclopedia describes a sex toy as “an object or device that is primarily used to facilitate human sexual pleasure such as a dildo or vibrator.” Sex toys evolved about 26,000 years ago and were created for different purposes.
Some believe that the creation of sex toys was an after-thought, after the evolution of condoms, while others cite instances as far back as 1869 Victorian period in Britain when doctors treated hysterical women by masturbating them.
Doctors in those days were said to have complained of wrist ache while carrying out the act (masturbating 
patients), which prompted George Taylor to invent the first steam-powered vibrator.
Taylor’s invention was not the only sexual object as it became popular with time and inspired others like Frank Young in 1892 to patent a ‘rectal dilator’, while in 1904, a group of French sailors devised the ‘dame de voyage’ which later became blow-up dolls that is still in use up till this present time, for sexual pleasure.
Many scientists opined that ‘sex, which is as old as time, gives meaning to sex toys to be as old as the act itself’.
The use of sex toys as a means of masturbation, which has for sometime now been an object of moral and spiritual controversy among renowned religious leaders (who either oppose or support it), is alien to African culture and can be said to have found its way into the society through inter-racial marriages, education and Western influence.
In Nigeria today, it is no longer a surprise to know that sex toys have taken the hearts of a number of women, irrespective of their ages or social backgrounds. It has also become popular among students. In fact, it is not unusual  now a days for your 14-year-old teenager to have a dildo which she uses to pleasure herself.
Shops where these toys are sold are all over Lagos and Abuja. Names of shops like Perfect Herbals, Skin Perfector, Divine Healers, Crush World, Libido, Smarties, to name just a few, are known to clients for trading in sex toys.
In Lagos today, it is easier to buy sex toys as many magazines carry adverts on where the shops are located. And many big girls have been found to have keyed in to the new way out of fun starvation.
A visit by Saturday Tribune Ikeja, Lagos, revealed more than 20 shops that deal in toys, ranging from dildos, penile rings, and massagers to vibrators, with prices ranging from N5000 to N30,000 depending on what you want.
Many sex toys traders were unwilling to talk to Saturday Tribune on what they sell, and one of them, after pleading for anonymity, eventually made a lot of startling revelations, and announced that “most of my buyers come here with their husbands. The husbands are fond of saying they prefer having a toy as a competitor.”
The trader, whose shop was stocked with top-of-the-range sex products, disclosed that she imported her goods from the United States and had been selling sex toys since three years ago when many customers walked in and were dejected when they found she was not selling such things.
She told Saturday Tribune that at times, she makes about N1million monthly from selling the products. She also revealed that most of the sales she makes daily are from men who buy the products for their wives, that she has a number of clients that order for toys, which she delivers personally to them.
She sells a range of toys, like the Caucasian-toned toys (for those who have fantasies of sleeping with white men) and double vibrators for lesbians. She also claimed that some women prefer the toys they believe come in the sizes of their husband’s sex organs.
The second shop visited by Saturday Tribune gave another insight into the sex-toy habits among women. Here, an artificial female organ was discovered, which is used by men to attain sexual pleasure.
The toy, which sells for N21,000, is said to be very rare as it does not sell fast compared to other toys designed for women.
It is believed that a high percentage of top class Nigerian women own a vibrator while others own more than one. The habit is said to be common among couples who live apart; widows, single women, divorcees and even married women.
A female journalist, who spoke on the issue disclosed that the number of married women who use sex toys is amazing, adding that the toys know no barriers when it comes to age, class or marital status.
She further explained that people use them for different purposes, some for total satisfaction and others to combat loneliness.
When asked if she owns a sex toy, Nkechi Okoli, a 300-level Law student of the Lagos State University, quipped: ‘Why would I when there are many virile men around?’ On the contrary, Kehinde Yusuff, a nurse, disclosed that she has one, which keeps her healthy and prevents her from cheating on her partner, who, she said, is an engineer that travels around the country frequently.
When asked how the toys keep her healthy, she explained that a sex toy would not get her pregnant or give her sexually transmitted diseases. Another respondent, however, warned that sex toys, if not used and kept properly, could give the user bacterial infections.
Saturday Tribune also discovered that the use of sex toys had become a common topic among women, who now have special nicknames for their toys – which their husbands and partners may not understand when they mention them. For instance, a woman could tell her friends ‘Tarzan has been so busy this week’ (referring to the toy she uses to pleasure herself).
Commenting on the development, a medical doctor, Dr. Segun Olanrewaju, said there had been no medically tested adverse effects on the use of sex toys; and that the only effect is psychological, as it is possible for users to get so addicted to them that without using the toys, they can no longer get sexual pleasure.

Another medical practitioner, Dr Ireti Shofola, claimed that using sex toys is a good way of fostering peace and trust in the home. According to her, a husband that lives apart from the wife can easily understand the importance of a sex toy and may not suspect the wife of infidelity. But she also warned that the practice could lead to selfishness and addiction.